Sunday, September 28, 2008

Apples and Pumpkins

It's fall here in Fargo, and we are enjoying every minute of it. We went to the Fall Festival Saturday and enjoyed the pumpkins and the kids LOVED the pony rides.

Whitney and I went apple picking in the orchards in South Fargo. It's totally free, and we got a ton of apples. We could have got more, but we didn't bring bug spray and were getting eaten alive. Literally. They spray here for mosquitos (the planes fly over your house, and it sounds like they're going to take your roof off). At first I was wondering what the health implications are for all that lovely pestiside. But now, after being paranoid we contracted West Nile, I think I rather have pesticides and not be eaten alive. It really was bad--my friend Lisa wore flip flops and her feet were COVERED with mosquitos. Next time I guess we'll bring the spray.

And some more Whitney love. I curled her hair one Sunday with rags--it turned out really cute, but I didn't get a chance to get a picture of the final project :( And her first day of preschool. That girl can't smile without making a goofy face!

And finally, if you made it to the end of this post, I got a letter to the editor article published in the Fargo paper. You can click on the link to read it. I'll warn you though, it's political, and if you still want to be my friend, and if you don't think you can be after knowing which candidate I support, then don't click on it, and we can still be friends. If you don't care, then go ahead and read the article. Don't forget, I have Democrat and Republican friends out there, and I'm not antagonistic to either side.

In-forum Letter

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Whitney Zen

Any time Whitney gets dressed or gets ready for her bath and stands naked (save her underwear) she says, "Look Mom, I'm The Little Mermaid."


Thanks Disney.

Thursday, September 04, 2008

A Place for My Girl

With all the women in the media recently enjoying the spotlight--for better or worse, I've had many thoughts culminating about what I want for MY little girl. Granted, she's only 4, but already I see how the world works on her.

Whitney is a very VERY loving person. She is very concerned about others. She is very sensitive. She can't watch Beauty and the Beast (because she thinks the mob will hurt the beast) and other TV shows because she's THAT concerned about the character's well-being.

In preschool she loves being a helper and teacher to other kids.

Whitney can be quite the drama queen--she will cry at the drop of hat and then quickly be laughing a blink later. I don't know where she gets it from. I don't go around the house all day long doing those things.

She's really concerned about how she looks--if things match, if the shoes are pretty enough, etc.

She is really REALLY smart--but not really aware of it.

I've been observing all these traits for the past few months, and I've been thinking how I can help shape her strengths and shrink her weaknesses. Now I'm not naiive. I do have Joshua, I know there is only so much moulding and shaping you can do, and ultimatley she'll make her own person, but I do hope I can create an environment to foster the best in her.

I guess part of it is example. She really picks up EVERYTHING. When I get really flustered, or panicked, I sometimes utter.."shhh." (To avoid a four letter explative with the same beginning consonant blend). Well, when Whitney couldn't get up the hill this morning on her trike, she said, "shhh..." too. Great. Every morning when I go running she tells me, when she gets big she wants to go running too. That's great--I want her to be healthy, but not overly obsessed with how she looks. I don't want her to be the type of girl who eats a piece of cake while at the same time blurts out, "I shouldn't eat this, I'm getting fatter by the bite." I want her to enjoy her life, who she is, and be happy with herself enough to enjoy that piece of cake too.

I don't want her to be swayed by what other people think. I want her to stick to her morals and never let anyone tell her she doesn't have the talent or intelligence to meet her potential. I want her to be able to do anything she wants to do--which means she needs to think that she's capable herself.

I don't want her to think that she needs a man to complete her. I've seen many women and friends who have often thought their life won't be complete, that they won't be a whole person if they don't have a man in their life. Don't get me wrong--I love men (Steve that's you). But I also love myself too--and know that if anything happened to Steve--though I would be very very sad and a part of all the experiences I share with him would seem empty--I know I could make it too.

Now I hope with this post my friends don't think I'm a ranting angry feminist. But I do consider myself a feminist in some ways. I want my little girl to be a strong woman in a world which challenges the role and credibility of women every day. I'm not perfect at this--I often feel that Whitney gets the short end of the stick because Joshua requires so much attention. I guess that's why, when I see different women portrayed in the media, I want to do a better job of this.